Tantrums are a normal part of toddlerhood. Young children often don’t have the words to express frustration, so tiredness, hunger, illness or sudden disappointment can erupt into a meltdown. Older children may repeat tantrums if they’ve learned that it gets them what they want.

While tantrums can’t be prevented entirely, they can be reduced with steady, predictable habits. By being consistent in our response, keeping rules the same each time, and maintaining regular sleep and meal routines. We can plan errands for times when the child is rested and fed. It may help to carry a small toy or snack for delays. We can offer simple choices to give them a sense of control and use positive directions that explain what they should do. Praise good behavior often, as small acknowledgments encourage more of it.

When a tantrum happens, the key is to stay calm. Redirecting your child with a new activity or a change of scene can help. If they become unsafe, hold or guide them gently until they settle. If they’re upset but safe, it may help to sit nearby without escalating matters. Once they’ve quieted down, rules can be explained briefly and kindly.

If a tantrum escalates into dangerous or destructive behavior, a short timeout in a boring spot can help reset the moment. Keep it brief, consistent, and follow it with a quick explanation, always alongside positive reinforcement and clear boundaries.

Most children outgrow tantrums by three and a half. If the outbursts worsen after age four or involve self-harm or harm to others, it’s worth consulting a healthcare professional for deeper guidance.

If we handle the moments with calm and consistency, they will gradually become fewer and easier to navigate, as the child grows.